“Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.” Dr. Seuss

Tuxedo 1Life is never black & white, but eight years ago I was touched by “it.” The contrasting colors caught my eyes and I was forever a changed person.  Tuxedo, the runt of my cat litter, had a lopsided “got milk” mustache, white booties and soul-loving pretty green eyes; the rest of his body was pitch black.  His brothers (there were three others) did not have any markings; so he was special from birth.

TuxThere is no way to soften my heart; he was put to rest Monday.  About a month ago, he was diagnosed with cancer of the kidneys.  He was given steroid shots to address his discomfort, but eventual that horrible disease took him from us.  Cancer… damn, damn, damn you!!!  I whispered to him in his final moments that I was deeply sorry having to make that decision for him.  I really, really hope he forgives me.  I like to think that we are of one thought when I told him that I did not want him to suffer. I could not bear the thought of him being in pain. No, not any animal.

I miss you.

My emotions ebb and flow with a flood of tears and a down turn smile in its wake.  To lessen the pain Dr. Seuss said, “Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.” Didn’t Seuss like cats too?

I miss you.

It will take time to adjust making one less bowl at dinner, or to call his name when something does not sound right in the house.

I miss you.

Tux Card 72Respectfully, I would like to continue the “Tuxedo, the Sophisticated Cat” (www.sophisticatedkat.wordpress.com) blog in his memory with the same voice as in the past.  I know it denies his passing, but he was so special that I would like everyone to see the world through his voice.

I miss you.

Tux lying downTux left me with a lesson that I will not forget– how to live.  As he lived a happy life, he died with dignity surrounded by his two favorite servants, mom and dad.

Tux, you are loved and missed.  By continuing this blog, I hope you bring joy to others as you have bought joy and love to us.

Maralee_Park_071013_00450-EditI love you sweet, sweet TUX.


30 Replies to ““Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.” Dr. Seuss”

  1. I’m so sorry for your loss, Maralee. Our pets are dear to us. Put away your guilt. You gave him comfort in the end. Who could hope for more than that?

  2. I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s a difficult decision we have to make for our four legged friends. We had to make that decision 8 years ago with beloved King Charles Spaniel, Bugsy. I couldn’t bear to watch him suffer. Tux was a very lucky cat indeed to have you as his mother. This was a beautiful tribute.

  3. Oh, Maralee…I am so sorry. You were the best parents to Tux and doing what you had to do at the end is the ultimate in unselfish love. My tears are flowing for you as I know how much you’ll miss your boy. Keeping the blog going in his memory is a wonderful idea.

    This is the hardest part of opening our hearts to our furry friends. If it goes as it usually does, we only get them for awhile. But that awareness also makes the time we have so very special.

    Again…so, so sorry.

    1. Thank you, Carissa. I think we are better for having loved our furry friends. I think it makes us much kinder and gentler people. So even though it’s a difficult decision to make in the end, we are better of for having had them in our lives.

  4. I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad you are continuing with the blog name. Now every time I visit your blog I will also be remembering your beautiful TUX. He lives on because of it and now in the hearts of others. What a tribute you have giving TUX. Hope you are comforted by others sharing in your loss.


  5. Tux was beautiful…his eyes remind me of my kitty Minnie’s eyes. She had a sister who was a tuxedo kitty too…her name was Sachmo…Minnie is a tiger striped kitty but they both have white chests and white tummies. We lost Sach about 10 years ago and Minnie will be 18 this May. I worry over her as I love her so much….sending hugs.

  6. Very sorry to hear, despite it sounding like the right decision.

    . . . I still think I see our Kitty when a movement or a shape catches the corner of my eye. The memory won’t leave, but the pain and sorrow eventually does. And you are right . . . we are better for having known them.

  7. Time to walk down memory lane and joys Tux brought to your life. We mourn for the emptiness the loss has left in our lives. Tux lives on in your magnificent photos!

  8. Sorry to hear about Tux, I know exactly how you feel. I cried more when we had to put my cat Button down 4 years ago than I did at any funeral I’ve been to.

  9. Maralee,

    I am so sorry to hear about Tux. I know how you loved him so. I am sure he is in cat heaven and still with you in spirit. He was such a special cat!!!! I share you pain as I too had to let go of my little Kia several years ago. Losing our pet is one of the hardest things we go through in life. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Carol

  10. He was beyond forgiving you… I’m sure he was thanking you for loving him so much. I’m sad for you and appreciate your thoughts here. I’m sorry I’m so delayed in reading this. best, wendy

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